Do you know that people can look at the way you stand and know your character? They can see you walking and tell your life path. There is a practice called physiognomy, where people study the relationship between a person’s personality and physical appearance, especially the face. Although there is still no scientific evidence that it is accurate, ancient Chinese have practiced physiognomy for thousands of years, and they still apply it today, from business and recruitment to love and marriage. Believe it or not, your appearance, especially your posture, reflects exactly who you are inside.

In my country, we have a motto: “The spine is life,” to emphasize the importance of having a strong and healthy backbone. Your spine not only affects your posture and your health, but also your life in general. It’s where our seven chakras are located, seven gates where energy comes in and out of our body and our energy field. If the breath through the nose provides oxygen for our body, the spine and the seven chakras provide energy for the soul. In its default state, we stand straight, allowing the chakras to function normally, and making way for energy from the Source to flow through us. You connect with the Divine. Everything you do is divinely guided. You’re like the Sun and the Moon, rising and setting. You move with the frequency of the Universe. You are in alignment.

However, depending on our background and upbringing, we might have flaws in our energy field that impact the movement of energy through the chakras. This could be trauma from childhood, a generational curse, or a wound from society as you grow up. In moments of painful experiences, your body naturally forces itself to stiffen its muscles, just like a child or any animal curls up or cowers when facing danger. If you never have the chance to heal or release those muscles, they become blockages. Your chakras no longer spin normally, which negatively impacts the way you stand, walk, and move.

Furthermore, these are flaws, areas of stagnation in your energy field, like blind spots. You don’t see the world properly anymore. It’s like a hidden corner, a foggy part, where you automatically ignore it no matter how clearly it seems to other people. You can’t recognize the truth or an opportunity even if it’s right in front of you. That trauma, that blockage, that blind spot in your field spreads a dark cloud over your life, where everything under that cloud is hidden from you.

Without knowing it, you walk and move in a strange way, the same way your parents and the people around you move. It could be a stooped posture, a neck that appears tucked into the shoulders, walking with the feet set wide apart, an exaggerated arch in the lower back, etc. If you ever stand still or walk while people are looking at you, and you feel self-conscious or insecure about it, then there are still areas you can improve.

By fixing your posture, you release the blockages and let the chakras spin freely again. Energy then flows through you naturally. You feel like the veil has just lifted, and you see everything clearly. Any problem you had before no longer bothers you. The good news is that you don’t have to know what trauma you have or where it is stored. Just fix your posture, bring your spine back to its natural state, and see how your life starts to go in your favour.

In this blog, I will talk about five ways to fix your posture, five issues I have acknowledged in myself, and have tried to improve. This will apply to women because I’m a woman. But anyone who considers themselves feminine can benefit from these tips as well.

1. Sit and stand the right way

For a long time, I usually sat and stood with a stooped posture. Without anyone telling me, I always felt self-conscious when I was in crowded places. Even if no one was looking at me, I still felt awkward and uncomfortable in my own body, leading to awkwardness when interacting with other people. Later, I learned that a stooped posture. When you can’t stand or sit up straight, signals that you’re living a life where you feel inferior, where you have to hold your head down in front of people. You have to look down, be lower than others to navigate life. It is also a sign that you are afraid to speak your truth. You haven’t embraced your authentic self yet.

To fix this problem, you should learn to sit and stand straight, open your shoulders, hold your chin parallel with the ground, and keep your eyes looking straight ahead instead of downward. If you’re talking with others, try to maintain eye contact. Let your eyes have a fixed point, a sense of stillness. Controlling your eyes and keeping your posture straight shows the confidence within yourself. You also receive the energy from the Universe more freely, making any conversation or work you do feel more in alignment.

However, the first few times you try to fix your posture will feel awkward. You have been used to a stooped posture for so long that standing up straight now feels strange. You have to push through that phase of awkwardness, of self-consciousness. You have to remind yourself that no one is looking at you. No one cares about you but yourself. Then hold your head high and keep doing it. Confidence needs practice. You have to feel awkward first before it becomes your second nature. Then you will naturally sit and stand straight. It takes time and practice. Do not give up until you become the dream version of your higher self.

2. Sleep is important

We usually think that our performance when people are around is the most important. However, how you sleep also affects your energy field and your life. You spend 8 hours in bed, 1/3 of your life, so whatever position you choose for yourself is important. Unlike your waking state, when you consciously know what comes to you and decide whether to receive it or not, in your sleeping state, you’re vulnerable to negative energy since you can’t protect yourself at that time.

Make sure your bedroom is safe, without anything that interferes with your sleep. No mirror directly facing the bed, don’t sleep with the head of your bed against a window or any unstable object, no pictures or furniture on the wall above your head, and no chandelier over your bed. This is basic Feng Shui that anyone can research online. You should also have the head of your bed facing your favorable direction. Just search on Google using your birth year and your gender, and ask which direction is favorable for you, and you will have the answer. For example: “Male born in 1995, which direction is favorable according to Feng Shui?”

It doesn’t hurt to have a reference. When your bed faces your favorable direction, you unconsciously receive good energy even while you sleep. This will boost your life significantly. Trust me.

Your sleeping posture is also important. I know it’s hard to maintain one posture for the whole night, but at least you should try. Sleeping upside down means your life is turning upside down as well. It’s not a good posture. If you can’t sleep without a pillow or a stuffed animal, it means you still have attachments in life. Sleeping with a pillow that is too high interrupts the movement of energy through your chakras, and as a result, interrupts your life as well.

The best sleeping position is to lie on your back, facing upward. Relax your body and let your spine stay straight. You can use a low pillow or no pillow at all. Your hands can rest on your belly or relax by your sides. Your legs can be straight or in the butterfly position. Both are good for your spine and energy regulation. This is a good posture for exchanging energy with the Universe while you sleep.

Buddhism believes that sleeping on your right side is the best position, where you can rest while still receiving good energy. It is called the lion pose, where you place yourself in the position of a lion, resting but still aware of the world outside.

3. How to walk properly?

Sitting and standing straight is one thing, but learning to walk properly is another challenge. You can stand gracefully, but as soon as you walk, people see how clumsy and insecure you are.

The first thing I had to fix was walking with my feet set wide apart, together with my feet facing outward when I walked. It signals a person with a big ego, and someone who is more masculine than feminine. When you see a couple with the woman walking like that, there is a high chance that the girl is the masculine one, and the boy is following her lead. She is in control of the relationship, and he is the feminine one. This style of walking means I want to control life. I’m not open to receiving from the Universe, but instead I rely on my own strength to achieve things.

This approach is not wrong, especially if you are a man. This style of walking is okay. But if you are a woman, having a big ego and being stubborn about your choices turns you into a masculine person. As a result, you always match with weak and passive men, and it’s hard to find someone you can be vulnerable with, rely on, and be protected by. True femininity means you relax and receive. Whatever comes to you, you know it’s the right thing. You don’t demand. You are laid-back, receptive, nurturing, and healing.

To fix my walk, I learned to walk with my feet closer together or in one line. It signals femininity, grace, and elegance.

Another thing I had to change was learning how to control my hips. I used to have an exaggerated arch in my lower back, which made my lower belly more visible. It’s a curve in the spine, and it interrupts the flow of energy. To walk and stand the right way, I must keep my hips level, like a bowl of water that I shouldn’t spill while walking. Keep them still, without twisting or pushing my hips too much. It’s how I keep my spine in a natural position, where I feel like my throat opens up more, energy flows in and out easily, I can sing better, and express myself more confidently.

In any movement, prioritize the spine always in its proper position

More than sitting or standing, our life consists of many body movements that I can’t cover all here, but if you take anything from this blog, remember that you should always prioritize keeping your spine in its natural position. Make sure you don’t round your back when you sit down or stand up, when you cook, when you pick something up from the ground, especially when you work out. We tend to focus too much on the muscles we are working, forgetting that we should keep our backbone straight, with our hips, back, and head in a straight line.

Imagine that there is an invisible thread pulling your head upward, and sense the energy coming in and out of your body through the top of your head. In every movement, prioritize keeping your spine straight and comfortable in its natural position.

Although we fix our posture so that our life can become clearer, so that we see everything as it is, without the veil covering anything, people will also look at us with admiration and respect. It’s not that they consciously check whether you’re standing straight or not, but unconsciously, people perceive you as someone in a high position. Holding your head high with good posture is the sign of a confident person, someone who believes in themselves and doesn’t hold their truth back just to accommodate others. Proper posture also shows how you respect yourself, that you have made peace with your past and your trauma, and that you accept who you are. You’re calm, you’re at peace, you’re free, you’re in alignment. When you treat yourself differently, people see you differently. Remember, all the girls you admire on social media, for how well put together they seem, are you.

You are the woman people respect, the image girls look up to and wish they could be just like. You can be their inspiration. You can spread your energy, your ideas, your opinions, your dreams, and your vision to the world. It all starts where you are, with your body, with your head held high, with your back straight, and with your eyes always looking directly toward the future.