So, good news. Who knew sex could have so many benefits? “Oh my God, I must have been doing it wrong this whole time,” some of you might be thinking. Actually, sex can be very beneficial for your body, if you understand how your energy moves through your chakras, and how you can move your body so that blockages are released simply by letting go.

Our human body is not only made of cells and chemical substances. Besides those scientific elements, we are also made of energy. In the West, it is often called life force; in China, it is known as “Chi.” This is the energy that flows through our body, giving us consciousness and connecting us with the Earth and the universe.

This energy flows through seven chakra centers along our spine. It moves in a spiral motion, rising upward and eventually flowing out through the top of our head, the crown chakra. When all seven chakras are open, our energy flows freely and connects us with the deeper power of the universe. In that state, we are healthy in all aspects of life, physically, mentally, and spiritually. We are aligned with our life path, and nothing seems as frightening anymore. You feel safe, and deep inside, you know that.

However, living as a human on Earth, we all face challenges. Depending on your karma, your upbringing, and the way you live your life, your energy may become blocked in certain areas. Each person is different. The way we live, think, and behave is directly connected to our body.

When all of your chakra centers are open, your energy flows smoothly in and out of your body, helping to clear away what no longer serves you. In that state, you are in good health, both physically and mentally. But when something is blocked, it not only affects your mind, you may feel stuck in the same situations again and again, unable to think beyond your usual patterns, and eventually, it shows up in your body.

You may experience stagnation in certain areas. At first, it could be back pain, a bloated stomach, or a spinning sensation in your head. Suddenly, something that used to function normally just stops working, and you don’t know why. That’s when there may be a blockage in your energy field. Your body may unconsciously tense or move in the wrong way, and you begin to feel discomfort or pain.

In Eastern medicine, there is an entire field where practitioners observe your body and posture to understand what aspects of your life may be out of balance. For example, back pain can be linked to carrying more responsibility than you can handle. If you struggle to stand or sit upright, it may reflect feelings of insecurity. Stomach issues are often connected to attachment and emotional processing, and so on.

If you’re interested, you can explore physiognomy, the study of facial and body features to understand behavior and tendencies, as well as traditional Chinese medicine, which connects different parts of the body with different aspects of life.

Having sex is an art. It’s not math, and there is no formula for a successful experience. Just like the impermanence of life, each partner is different, and each moment is different, which requires your body to move in its own way. Making love is like dancing with your partner: you move together, your bodies in sync.

Although, on a basic level, the reproductive organs of men and women are designed to fit together, every individual is still unique. During intimacy, the body naturally responds, there is a sense of connection, adjustment, and mutual interaction. The body is incredibly adaptable, and when a person is relaxed enough, everything flows more naturally.

With so many nerve endings in these areas, both men and women can experience deep physical sensations. To reach that level of connection and pleasure, the body, especially for women, needs to be fully relaxed, allowing the experience to unfold naturally.

During a sex session, our body will naturally move into positions where energy can flow more easily. Wherever there is a blockage, the body tends to become stiff, and you may even feel pain when reaching that position. That’s why people practice yoga, for flexibility and, of course, for better sex. It’s similar to the art of Kamasutra, where both partners explore positions that can lead to deeper pleasure and more intense orgasms.

Like yoga, you don’t master a difficult pose on the first day. It takes time and consistent practice to stretch the muscles so energy can flow freely again. Sex can be approached in the same way, as a kind of mindful movement practice. Your partner may guide you into positions that require you to be more conscious, more present, and more relaxed. Instead of resisting the pose, you learn to flow with it.

You observe the stretch, even the discomfort. Wherever the mind goes, the energy follows. In that moment of awareness, your body begins to open more fully, and both of you can sense that rising peak, right here, right now. Each time, you explore the position a little deeper. You may even find yourself willingly moving into it. This is how blockages in the body are gradually released, little by little, each time you enter and soften into those challenging positions.

I notice that I often tend to twist my body while making love, as if I’m naturally drawn into a spiral-like position. For example, in doggy style, my head might turn to the left, with my right hand reaching behind my back, almost as if I’m trying to wring myself like a wet towel. When giving a blowjob, I also tend to tilt my head to the left, while my eyes look directly up at my partner.

Eye contact feels important, somehow, if you can maintain it in any position, that position feels complete in itself. It’s as if you and your partner become one, the energy exchange forming a full circle. There’s no force needed from either side, just a shared awareness that allows you both to experience that continuous, flowing peak.

Energy in the body tends to move in a spiral, so it makes sense that we’re drawn to these kinds of positions, or that our bodies naturally twist in that way. However, even in more familiar positions, like missionary, you can still explore your limits, gently stretching both body and awareness a little further. When you are fully relaxed in your body, that’s when you can reach the deepest, most expansive peaks of pleasure.

Sex can heal. Just by letting yourself relax, you remove blockages in your body, and then your mind becomes clearer, your life will soon begin to clear as well. You don’t need to know what kind of trauma was formed or when it happened; it simply passes, and you become happier.

Any kind of anxiety, any insecurity, sex can help heal it. Sometimes, the blockage doesn’t reside in your body but in your mind. Suddenly, you think about unfinished work, the hair you haven’t removed on your legs, or how you’ve gained weight. All of these are mental blockages, and you can treat them just like the ones in your body. Take a deep breath, observe them, and let them go.

Keep practicing, day by day. Each time you make love, you train yourself a little more, releasing more stiffness. Until you notice a big difference, your sex life now feels healthy, pure, almost divine. You’ve never felt more at peace with your body and your life. You’re safe.

Sex is a reflection of life. Every small gesture, every small aspect of your daily routine reflects your whole life, but sex is more naked, both literally and metaphorically. You just need to be aware, to observe, and to adjust accordingly, in both life and with your partner. That’s the key to good sex, and also the answer to a good life.

Before ending this article, I want to add one more note. You can practice healing sex with yourself, although exploring new areas of your body will be easier if you have a partner. The important point here is that you should do it with one partner. Each person is different in their own way; when you make love with someone new, it takes time for both of you to let your guard down and try new things. You also don’t know whether that person likes a certain position or not.

Practicing with one partner who shares the same level of awareness as you is key. Each time you have sex together, you can pick up where you left off and continue exploring from there. When you’re with someone new, not only do you need to relax mentally, but your body also needs time to adjust to a new partner, so it may not be the best choice. Having one consistent partner is the way.

If you don’t have one, at least begin by practicing with yourself. When you’re ready, the right person will come. I’m sure of that.