You know everything in this life is connected, right? Just like the butterfly effect, when you influence something random, it can affect an event that is far away or in the future, although when you look at things with normal eyes, those situations seem irrelevant. This Universe has a rule: you reap what you sow, or in Eastern culture, we call it karma. In the West, people may be more familiar with the principle of cause and effect. There is no such thing as random chance; an event that happens in your life must originate from your actions in the past. So, in short, you create your reality through your own behaviors.

Have you ever wondered why your dream takes so long to manifest? Why hasn’t that promotion happened yet? How can you ask clients for on-time payments? Whatever you want, there is always something that comes up to slow down the process, delay the event. You know your vision, but it seems like it never comes, even if you can see it right in front of you.

This is the time to sincerely ask yourself: have you ever created a situation where others have to wait for you? It could simply be a reply, a date with your friends, or a meeting with your parents. If you did it before, then you already sowed a seed of being late. Therefore, the Universe mimics exactly the same energy, and later in life, you’ll have to wait for something you truly want. Depending on how much frustration you made others experience, you will undergo a similar feeling. This is karma.

1. When you keep others waiting

You told your friends that you would show up at 10:00 am. It’s already 10:30 am, but there is no sight of you. You change or cancel the plan at the last minute, just because something comes up or you don’t feel like going.

Many people seem comfortable with being late, not only for 5 or 10 minutes, but for 1 or 2 hours. They think punctuality is a myth, and only Germans could do that, or you could be considered a freak for showing up 15 minutes earlier at a party when everyone is just showing up after the main course.

These behaviors firstly disturb other people, making them feel irritated or even leading to frustration. This is understandable: when you wait for someone, you expect them to show up on time. It’s a classic manner that anyone should embody.

Secondly, your action of being late can have an impact on a bigger plan. Maybe people have to delay an event because of you, or they need to change it at the last minute just because of your actions. By being late, you affect people’s lives in a negative way.

Let’s be honest, no one wants things to go against what they expect them to be, so do you?

Just use your common sense. Technically, no one wants to put their trust in someone unreliable. If you’ve failed people, they lose their faith in you. Each person will treat you differently depending on their level of self-worth and how close they are to you.

Some people won’t tolerate that tardy behavior even once; others might give you two or three chances, or even more, before they completely ditch you. When you say something but your actions don’t match, people will see you as untrustworthy. They see your words as a joke; they don’t think you’re serious.

You teach people to ignore your opinions, ignore your needs, and ignore you in general. In the workplace, it’s understandable that your boss won’t give you any important job, or they won’t consider you for a bigger position. You have already proved that you’re not a reliable person; you’re not stable enough to take on bigger responsibilities.

In your social circle, you slowly lose connection with true friends. People put their trust in you but receive nothing but disappointment.

Usually, your family is always the most tolerant. They will give you chances over and over again until it reaches the breaking point. When it’s over, that door is closed, and you have to knock on a new one.

However, if you are constantly being late, no one trusts you enough to give you any opportunities. People just ignore you.

On a broader scale, your actions also have an effect on the Universe level. The act of being late means you send out inconsistent energy. You said you would do something, but you didn’t. You said you would show up at 9:00, but you were late. The Universe therefore mimics that same energy and gives it back to you.

Later in life, when you have a dream or something you really wish for, the Universe may postpone or even cancel it, according to your actions. This is not about you making your mom wait for 10 minutes, so your boyfriend would be late for the same amount of time. It’s about the energy, about the feeling you stir up in others.

If that person doesn’t take things too seriously, and they have something else occupying their mind, then it’s not a harmful situation; you will be fine. But if unfortunately, you ruin someone’s day just by changing your mind or delaying the plan, that frustration of waiting will be the seed you sow at that moment.

In the future, you will experience exactly the same feeling in events that look irrelevant. This could be a client who keeps delaying payment, or the promotion you were promised but never received. You see how disturbing it feels? You created it for yourself.

When you say something but your actions don’t follow, the Universe reads it as disturbed energy and applies it back to your wishes as well. Then when you want your vision to come true, when you want something, the Universe postpones it according to your actions. The Universe reads it as maybe you don’t need it that much, you are not in a rush, or you don’t even want it, just like the way you changed your mind at the last minute. So your dream may come late, or may never come at all, based on your own actions.

When you keep others waiting, you plant a seed of waiting in your garden. If that seed blooms early, maybe the same person will be late next time. However, if it blooms much later, you could encounter it at such a random event, but the consequence would be bigger. Each time you’re late or change your mind, you send out that unreliable energy.

Until the point when you see that nothing goes according to your plan, everything and everyone ignores you, your energy becomes blurry. You become a muted radio that can’t vibrate. No one replies to you, not even the Universe.

2. When you let yourself down

Not everything in life has a deadline. When you decide to start working out, learn a new language, quit smoking, or eat healthily, no one forces you to do it. No one tells you to hurry up or yells at you to get things done.

If you said you would do something but didn’t, you failed to keep a promise to yourself. Unconsciously, you train your mind not to believe in yourself. If you can’t wake up on time, you unconsciously think you can’t make it happen.

This feeling of being untrustworthy is contagious. Now you believe that you can’t have a better job, you can’t find a better partner, or you don’t deserve a better life. When you fail that promise to yourself, you take a step closer to that lowest version of yourself.

When a date involves another person, you have someone to remind you about it. If you can’t keep your word, that person could act like they are bothered by it or not, but at least you can see a physical consequence of your behavior.

When the promise only involves you and yourself, that consequence is more subtle. It turns into your subconscious mind, creating that hesitation of not trusting yourself. Because of your past actions, you know that if you said you would do something, there is a high chance it wouldn’t happen.

Slowly, you lose faith in yourself. You turn into a mediocre, pessimistic person. You have no goals or dreams, because what is the point of having a dream if you can’t achieve it anyway? You think people who follow their vision and make it come true are just lucky, or they’re a fraud. You stop believing in the magic and beauty of life, and you start living like a ghost, flowing around, looking at life without any feeling, emotion, or interference.

This is the moment you become a sheep. When you can’t keep promises to yourself, can’t do what you say, you let others decide your life and schedule. You need a push to do something, and that push will come from society. You need to make a living, so you have to work. When you can’t decide what you want, when you don’t dare to chase your dream, others decide it for you. They tell you when you need to show up at work, when to finish your tasks, and they give you deadlines.

That’s how you turn into a robot. You become a part of the system, helping others who trust themselves build their dreams. That trust comes from small gestures of showing up whenever they say they will. They trust themselves a little more each time, until that trust becomes unstoppable. People say they will do something, and they do it. These are the people who lead. The rest follow their lead. When you don’t trust yourself, you naturally put that trust in others who trust themselves.

Procrastination is such a bitch. It steals your life minute by minute. You still waste your time and energy thinking about what to do. You avoid the task, distract yourself with something else, but in the end, the thing you need to do is still on the list.

On an energy level, you’re doing it, but in real life, nothing happens. Then you will come back to that task mentally over and over again until it drains you.

When you postpone something that needs to be done, you’ll come up with explanations for why you haven’t done it yet. The ego will tell you that it’s not for you.

“I’m not a morning person.”
“I was born to be fat.”
“I’m such a loser.”
“Only rich people can do that.”

In the end, you will hit the moment of “what if,” and the immense regret will drown you with that hollow feeling in your heart.

You were lazy. You procrastinated. You were a coward. All of this for what? For a life where you’ve lost faith in yourself.

3. Show yourself and others some respect

If you let yourself down, if you fail to keep a promise to yourself, then you can be fat, you can be depressed, you can feel like a loser. It’s totally fine. You suffer from your own actions alone; you take full responsibility for your own life.

However, if your behavior involves another person, then it’s a different story. When you keep others waiting, you are being disrespectful to that person.

Time is precious. Time is energy. Time is currency.

When you have an interview, the person who sits in front of you, who asks you questions, is doing their job. They are being paid to interview you.

But your friends, your family, your dates, they don’t owe you anything. No one pays them to be with you. The reason they make plans with you is because they truly want to spend time with you. They want you in their life, and they care about you as a human being, not about how much profit you can bring them. If that effort is not reciprocated, then people will leave.

Every person in your life has a different level of tolerance. See it as a bank: some people have so much time to spend, so they can afford to give you more. Others are tight on time, so they’re probably stricter about it. In most cases, people will give you the first chance. Depending on how close you are with them and what benefits you can bring to the table, people will decide if they’re going to see you again.

In professional life, unless you’re on top of your game, you can be easily replaced. Only your loved ones, the people who love you the most, will give you a second chance repeatedly. Maybe they owe you something, but I can see that our parents and spouses are more tolerant than others.

When you’re involved with someone who is always late, know that they don’t respect you. Everyone has the ability to be on time. We have exams, interviews, flights, and events that you can’t be late for no matter what, and I believe these people still manage to show up at the right time.

So why don’t they treat you the same? It’s because you’re not that important to them. You’re not someone they’re afraid to lose. They think you can wait.

If you’re still friends with or in a relationship with this type of person, please show yourself some respect and ditch them. Keeping someone who disrespects you is an act of disrespecting yourself.

You see yourself as not important enough, as someone who can wait, and you send that energy to the world. The Universe then mimics that energy by keeping you waiting for your dream, your goals in life.

You don’t deserve that type of behavior. If you’re important enough, people will make time for you. They will schedule their plans just to see you.

Of course, we can’t control life. Things happen. Something urgent comes up, your car breaks down, your child gets sick, your pet is in an emergency. That’s why you can cut people some slack and let them get away with it one or two times. ươ;’/But if this action is repeated many times, just leave. Show some respect for yourself. Do not tolerate that behavior.

Just like flights or exams, if you’re late, you miss them. By giving these people chances, you slow down your own journey. You let the Universe know that it’s okay to keep you waiting. Your dream, your goal, your vision will be delayed.

Don’t allow these people into your life. Move on. Let them slow others down.

You deserve to be the priority, not the waiting list.

4. Be careful with your words

Some people are chronically late, no matter what event it is. As if being late is a code written into their system.

Others might be pushovers. They agree to something they don’t want to do, promise something they can’t keep, just to make others happy. This usually leads to delaying the plan or changing their mind at the last minute.

They realize they don’t want to go, but instead of bravely saying it in the first place, they decide to do it after everything is already planned.

Any type of not doing what you say you will do creates a disturbance in energy. You send mixed signals to the Universe, which later you will experience in a different form. Your life will be a mess, your wishes won’t come true.

If you don’t want something, say it out loud. It’s okay to let people down. If you think you can’t make it at 5:00 pm, if you need more time to finish your work or wrap up an important task, then tell people. Tell them you will be late for a few hours, or just schedule the plan for another day. Don’t let people wait for you or wonder where you are. Do not evoke any negative feelings in them, or you will taste your own medicine in the future.

This is a reminder for anyone out there who usually pushes people to do something they don’t like. Even if you think it’s good for that person, don’t do it.

If you force people to do something they don’t like, if you gaslight or manipulate them into doing it, then later in life, you will have to experience something you find unpleasant, just because it’s good for you. That uncomfortable sensation you stir up in others will come back to you.

So instead of manipulating your way through life, just let life flow. Let people be themselves. What is suitable will stay, and what is misaligned will fall away. Everything comes and goes naturally, without you forcing your power.

When you think, you plant a seed on the energy level. But what you say will plant a stronger seed; its effect will be enormous. Make sure that whatever you say, your actions will follow. Try to keep your promises, show up on time, and do what you tell others. If you said you will reply to them at night, then don’t delay it until the following morning. If you said you would go, just show up even if you don’t want to. If you’re late, inform the other person so they can understand what happened. They can make a different plan instead of wasting their time wondering about you. By doing that, you’re doing yourself a favor. In the future, if something you wish for doesn’t show up, you’ll know the reason or have something else instead. Remember, you reap what you sow.

Your word is incredibly powerful. Depending on the relationship between what you say and what you do, the Universe will bring you a life with similar energy. Punctual people, people who keep their promises, will receive their blessings on time. People who are always late, people who say the right words but whose actions don’t follow, will have a messy life: payments are postponed, promotions are delayed, relationships are stagnant, and there are no breakthroughs. They create that life for themselves.

This is why marriage is important, marriage is divine, and why in a few religions, divorce is forbidden. You can move in together, you can have kids, take vacations, meet friends and families, then you can separate, sleep with other people, and it won’t affect you as much as when you take a vow. When nothing is official, when it’s an agreement between two people, it’s okay to change when both parties are no longer happy. You didn’t promise that you would be with them forever, so leaving after 10 years together is fine.

However, if you take a vow, you carve it into the sky, you write it into the Universe’s memory, especially if that vow is made in front of GOD, or any powerful deity, then the consequence of breaking that vow is immeasurable. Just consider when you can’t keep your promise with your friends or coworkers, or any normal human being, the bad result will happen depending on how much you affect their life. Compared to God, the price you have to pay for betraying His trust will be overwhelming; the consequences you will face down the line are inescapable.

You have to take full responsibility for the future, expect that your life will turn upside down. It’s like rebuilding yourself from scratch. You likely will lose everything mentally and physically, as if you’ve been through hell, before you can take the act of redemption to live again.

I don’t mean to scare you, this is the truth. If you live your life with a pure heart and integrity, then you have nothing to fear. Be careful with what comes out of your mouth, you write your own fate by how much you can live up to your word. Don’t be in a rush, don’t worry about letting people down, even if it’s your parents or your boss. If you don’t want to do something, decline that offer. If you need time, say it. Do not settle down when you haven’t felt like it yet. Do not get married just because of family or peer pressure. Choose carefully before you take any vow, it will save you a lot of trouble in the future.

When you’re in doubt, buy yourself some time. Think about it, be sure it’s the right decision. It’s okay to break a small promise, it doesn’t hurt to be late for a few minutes, but it’s a deadly penalty when you break a vow taken in front of God. If you’re getting married, make sure you choose the right person. If you’re still in doubt, do not bring God and the government into the relationship. Let it be between you and them. When the time comes, you can get married or leave, it’s your choice. Only say and do something when you’re sure about it.

This is a lot to process, it will take time for you to change your behavior. Just let the message sink in. You could see yourself in any position. You’re the one who is late, you’re the one pushing people, or you’re the one tolerating that disrespectful behavior. No matter which side of the story you resonate with, make sure you’ll change for the better. This change you make is for your future self, they will say thank you to you later in life.

When you create a convenient, comfortable, and happy life for others, you reap it yourself. When everyone sees you as a reliable person, you gain self-confidence. This will be the catalyst for your life, pushing you through all of the hardships and boundaries. You’ll live up to your highest potential. This is your life, your choice. You take your stand, claim it. Everything is in your hands, you’re the Creator of your future.